Why Prayer Isn’t Enough To Stop A Divorce


The other day, I got an email from a lady seeking prayers to cancel her divorce petition that had already been submitted at the county court. When I got this request, I paused and thought about it. How do I pray about this? Truly, when it comes to marriage problems, there are different permutations to consider. I have seen prayer change a marriage.

In fact, I remember a conference I attended several years ago where one of the pastors sang a beautiful worship song. A young girl enjoyed it so much she went home that weekend singing the song happily. Her dad, who had told them he was leaving the family home, heard her singing the song, changed his mind, and reconciled with his wife. So it does happen. A simple prayer and even a worship song can save a marriage. But it’s not always the case.

A newlywed young lady came to see me because her marriage was on the rocks. She was married to a man of a different race who had been married before and had a teenage son from a previous relationship before he met his first wife. She told me that she felt her husband’s first marriage had broken up because of the dynamics of the relationship between his teenage son, the son’s mother, and his first wife.

She was also convinced that there were negative spiritual forces at work that caused his first wife to deteriorate emotionally and mentally until the marriage was in shambles. When she came to me, she said that she felt the same spiritual forces were working against her. Her husband told her that she had changed so much. She had become angry and quarrelsome. So different from the woman he had married. It got so bad that he was considering sending her away.

She wanted me to pray with her to save her marriage. But as I listened to her and listened for direction from the Lord, I knew that prayer alone wasn’t what she needed at that time. There was so much fear, worry, and confusion in her, the prayer would have been neutralised by it.

Hebrews 11:6 tells us that without faith it is impossible to please God. James 1:6-7 tells us that the one who wavers (doubts) is like a wave of the sea tossed and that one shouldn’t expect to receive anything from the Lord.

So I recommended some Christian resources by Pastor Chris Oyakhilome for her to read and listen to. I didn’t pray with her at that time. We were having the Daughter’s of Destiny conference a few weeks later and I asked her to get herself ready to receive at the time of prayer. She did as I counselled. During the conference, at the time of prayer, she was ready and I prayed with her.

Three months later, I got an email from her. I was touched, excited, and blessed to read its contents. She had three things to thank the Lord for. Two of which I didn’t even know about previously. First she told me how she had suffered from Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome and had been told that it would be very difficult and near impossible for her to get pregnant and have children. There is no cure for this condition. She and her husband had tried different treatments and none had worked. But a week after the Daughters of Destiny conference and the time of prayer, she got pregnant!

Secondly, her marriage had been restored. She said that by praying AND using the Christian resources by Pastor Chris Oyakhilome that had been recommended she was able to change an impossible situation concerning herself and her family. Her faith was built and stabilised on the words she received into her spirit from the Christian books and audios. Her attitude and character was changed. Following on from that, her marriage was restored.

It goes in line with what the Apostle Paul said in Acts 20:32, I commend you unto God, and to the word of His grace which is able to build you up.

So what’s the answer to the question, can prayer stop a divorce? Yes, it can. But it should be accompanied by the word of God to build your faith and transform your mind. And a readiness to make the right changes where needed.